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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Can be genetic too.[/b] Both my husband and I have moderate mental health issues that are in check with lifestyle changes and medication. We have a great marriage and are crazy about each other.[/quote]Agreed. Not saying that social conditions don't affect people's mental health (eg, poverty for one) but my parents and in-laws were anxious, I grew up with anxiety as did dh (but he's in denial), and my daughter has struggled with anxiety.  Here's the difference in generations.  My parents and ILs desperately tried to hide their untreated anxiety but it leaked out all over the place indirectly.  I grew up dealing with it on my own, doing therapy and other support stuff, and recognizing it for what it is.  I don't hide it.  I don't inflict it on other people and demand they take care of me but I acknowledge that on occasions it's a problem for me.  Dd did medication and therapy for a long period of time.  I now recognize that this is a condition she inherited from our very anxious families and I wish I had realized earlier that this would be an issue for her.  And if I were younger, I probably would have done medication as well but it wasn't a common thing back in the 70s and I'm managing fine without it now.

Oh and I should add that both families have had histories of addiction which can go hand in hand with anxiety.  And there's another thing people are sometimes in denial about.

Anyway, all this is to say that some people have mental struggles.  Whether it's genetic or situational, you can deal with it openly and role model for your kids how to cope with it or you can hide it.  Women are more likely to get help for it than men.  I would imagine women are more likely to be open about it than men - because we see even in this thread how such things are framed as a sign of weakness in a man.  Whether I would want to date someone who spilled all this on the first date is another question - too open too fast - but I would want to date someone who was self aware and managing their emotional issues well.  Just as I would only want to date someone who could handle me acknowledging my occasional problems with anxiety.[/quote]

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