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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I recently moved back home with my parents. I was getting my BA and lived near campus. Due to financial issues, I had to move back home since I had to take out loans. Last fall I applied to a masters program and got rejected. I’m currently working as a nanny and I haven’t taken another job mainly because all the offers have a lower salary than I currently make. Last night, I got home really late and my mom was upset. One of the reasons that led me to move out was having a 10 pm curfew even though I was 21. 
My mom then goes on to tell me that I have to apply to multiple masters program this fall. Or else, I’ll have to start contributing financially. 
I don’t mind, but when I asked to move back home she said I didn’t have to pay for anything and try to pay down my loans. The only reason she’s saying I have to apply or else she’ll start asking me for money, is because I said I didn’t want to apply this fall. I told her I would apply next fall. She wants me to do it this fall because she worries I’ll lose my motivation for wanting to go to grad school. 
I don’t expect my parents to always be able to help me out, but I feel like she’s being manipulative and trying to get her way. 
My undergrad loans left a sour note in my mouth and I would  have to take out more loans to get my masters. 
I might also not even get it. But, I rather not do it this fall because I’ll only be doing it to please my mom. I want to get a masters degree, but I want to wait another year. It took me 5 years to get my BA and I have mental health issues that I’ve been dealing with as well (I rather focus on trying to work through my issues). 5 years were really long and stressful so I would like to wait. 
What would you do in this situation? [/quote]

This is adult life.  This is what it is at the start. Lower wage positions, struggling to juggle a budget, no get everything you want, making career choices, seeing peers get farther, faster

You will start out with one plan and things  will change. Right now, it's your rent. Another time, it might be a promotion or raise or it could be a roommate who breaks a lease early. There are so many examples.

Living at home doesn't turn the clock back. You didn't become a kid again bc you moved home.

Waiting to go to grad schhol is an ok choice. But so is your mother asking for rent.

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