Anonymous
Post 09/03/2018 10:05     Subject: My mom is being manipulative
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Become a live in nanny. I’m hiring.

Does she sound like a good worker? I don't think so. You'll have major problems with someone like her.


Meh. My next best option is an au pair. I just need someone to do pick ups, drop offs, and occasionally let the maids in. I just can’t get a 21+ au pair now I’m Trump’s America.

Blaming mommy AND Trump for your failure to launch! Love it, OP! Well done!

That wasn't op. That was the pp looking to hire a live-in.


Nanny with a mental health issues? I guess that pp is desperate for a nanny.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2018 10:04     Subject: My mom is being manipulative
Move out, and btw, she is right. You are drifting and clueless.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2018 07:44     Subject: My mom is being manipulative
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Become a live in nanny. I’m hiring.

Does she sound like a good worker? I don't think so. You'll have major problems with someone like her.


Meh. My next best option is an au pair. I just need someone to do pick ups, drop offs, and occasionally let the maids in. I just can’t get a 21+ au pair now I’m Trump’s America.

Blaming mommy AND Trump for your failure to launch! Love it, OP! Well done!

That wasn't op. That was the pp looking to hire a live-in.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2018 07:28     Subject: My mom is being manipulative
Anonymous wrote:I recently moved back home with my parents. I was getting my BA and lived near campus. Due to financial issues, I had to move back home since I had to take out loans. Last fall I applied to a masters program and got rejected. I’m currently working as a nanny and I haven’t taken another job mainly because all the offers have a lower salary than I currently make. Last night, I got home really late and my mom was upset. One of the reasons that led me to move out was having a 10 pm curfew even though I was 21.
My mom then goes on to tell me that I have to apply to multiple masters program this fall. Or else, I’ll have to start contributing financially.
I don’t mind, but when I asked to move back home she said I didn’t have to pay for anything and try to pay down my loans. The only reason she’s saying I have to apply or else she’ll start asking me for money, is because I said I didn’t want to apply this fall. I told her I would apply next fall. She wants me to do it this fall because she worries I’ll lose my motivation for wanting to go to grad school.
I don’t expect my parents to always be able to help me out, but I feel like she’s being manipulative and trying to get her way.
My undergrad loans left a sour note in my mouth and I would have to take out more loans to get my masters.
I might also not even get it. But, I rather not do it this fall because I’ll only be doing it to please my mom. I want to get a masters degree, but I want to wait another year. It took me 5 years to get my BA and I have mental health issues that I’ve been dealing with as well (I rather focus on trying to work through my issues). 5 years were really long and stressful so I would like to wait.
What would you do in this situation?


This is adult life. This is what it is at the start. Lower wage positions, struggling to juggle a budget, no get everything you want, making career choices, seeing peers get farther, faster

You will start out with one plan and things will change. Right now, it's your rent. Another time, it might be a promotion or raise or it could be a roommate who breaks a lease early. There are so many examples.

Living at home doesn't turn the clock back. You didn't become a kid again bc you moved home.

Waiting to go to grad schhol is an ok choice. But so is your mother asking for rent.



Anonymous
Post 09/03/2018 01:33     Subject: My mom is being manipulative
OP, I don't think you sound ready for grad school anyway. You need to apply for and accept a job in a field you think you're interested in, even if that means making less money than you are as a nanny. It doesn't sound like you'd be competitive for acceptance to grad school and/or you may not have much to contribute even if you are accepted. I don't mean that as a criticism -- it's a function of age and lack of professional experience.

Regardless of the "pretenses" under which your mom let you move back home, it's time to either pay some rent or -- preferably -- find some roommates. You can't complain when people ask you to contribute to your own upkeep or you'll sound like a brat.

Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2018 00:43     Subject: My mom is being manipulative
I bet you also share her cell phone plan and drive a car your parents bought for you. A bunch of my friends have kids like you, perpetual teenagers. Grow up.

Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 23:07     Subject: Re:My mom is being manipulative
Your mom is telling you that she will support you financially if you are in school. If she said otherwise before, that sucks, but she has every right to draw this line. And actually I think she is right. You have a college degree. You either need to support yourself or take your mothers very nice offer, and continue your education while living free on her home.

Or, you start paying her rent. Do you really think paying her a little money is not cheaper then getting your own place?

Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 22:47     Subject: Re:My mom is being manipulative
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She should manipulate her foot up your azz and out the front door. Lazy bitch.

Agree.




Agreeing with your own post, now are we??

Grow up, sweetie.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 22:46     Subject: Re:My mom is being manipulative
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She should manipulate her foot up your azz and out the front door. Lazy bitch.

Agree.




Agreeing with your own post, now are we??
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 21:42     Subject: Re:My mom is being manipulative
Anonymous wrote:She should manipulate her foot up your azz and out the front door. Lazy bitch.

Agree.