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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just keep your family routine as normal for cooking and shopping.

You almost have to have the mindset of being a single parent for the next week b/c your DH will be busy waiting hand & foot on his parents and totally making them feel comfortable, etc. and not be much of a help at all with parenting duties.

You know your toddler isn't going to eat brats & sauerkrat for dinner for the next 5 nights so just make something you and the kid will eat. Stop at the store on your way back from work to pick up needed items, etc. 
Like I said, just think of it as solo parenting for the next few days.[/quote]

But I’m the one waiting hand and foot. I’m cooking, doing the extra cleaning and laundry, etc., so they can visit. I’m up long before everyone, making sure the kitchen is clean, bathrooms are stocked, and the coffee and breakfast are ready. I’m also watching DD most of the time, other than when they want to take her to the park. I stepped out to take the garbage out the other night and 3 adults totally lost track of her, even though I said I was stepping outside for 5minutes,

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Don't expect them to look after your child. If you need to leave her, say in a clear loud voice in front of everyone, "I'm going out for x minutes. DH, I would like you to watch her the whole time I'm gone."[/quote]

WTF?

This is why OP is so annoyed. If I had to remind my husband to not lose my baby while I took the trash out, he would be getting the riot act. This is obnoxious behavior. You can’t just decide that you are doing zero parenting because you have guests. [/quote]

I’m curious what losing track of a toddler inside your home where your toddler lives looks like. Did she unlock the front door and wander into oncoming traffic, or did she go play in the playroom and DH wasn’t quite sure where she went? Did she go get a sharp knife and decide to slice up some peaches because she was starving from only having German food or did she go read a book in her room?

Also, I get complaining if he insisted you go get some stoneware mugs out of storage, but if he got mugs they like on his own, that’s just being a good host. My parents drink lots of soda. They only drink out of individual bottles. I’m not sure what size, maybe 12-16 oz. We don’t drink that. If we do get soda on a rare occasion, we get a 2L and drink it in glasses with ice and a reusable straw. When my parents visit, I don’t tell them to suck it up because when in Rome... I buy the bottles in the size and deal with the tiny inconvenience of having those bottles in my fridge and losing the space to something silly like that. It bugs DH that there’s so much extra waste, but he understands that when we host, we should cater to our guests’ preferences to a certain extent. Like bottles vs. glasses or stoneware vs. glass mugs.  [/quote]

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