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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH needs to step up as host/food provider and you need to unclench about décor and radio stations.

Also I think you might want to offer the toddler some of their preferred food--you know, just in case toddler likes it!
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I am offering. She will eat some, but I like a more rounded diet for her.

Like I said, I am mixing up what I am making. One night “our” food, one night “theirs”.But the next week, [b]apparently I am making[/b] German food only. [/quote]

Why do you allow your DH to have so much power over you? You're the one cooking the dinner. You can't stop him cooking his own dinner, but you can refuse to cook it. Does DH earn all the money? Any other reason you think he's the boss?[/quote]

It’s not a fight I’m interesting in having while we have guests. I’m just frustrated that he’s totally become incompetent. I do want him to visit with them, as they don’t visit often, but I’m just tired of it being a one way show, and him stomping his feet when I ask that my needs also be met. It’s not worth a blowout at this point, though. Maybe when they leave. [/quote]

So, don’t have a blowout. Just change YOUR behavior. That’s all you have control over anyways.

Stop waking up before everyone else to get everything ready. Don’t make a big announcement and about it,just stop doing it. As for dinner, suggest take out., or suggest that DH cooks. It’s okay if you come home and say you are tired. I also find that saying “Okay” and then doing whatever you want works well. Just say “Okay, honey” then go ahead and make some broccoli and pasta for DD. As long as you smile and say okay it’s easy enough to avoid a fight while you have guests. 
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