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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the silent treatment shows a lack of maturity and is abusive.[/quote]

x a million.  any woman who says otherwise is full of BS (just consider the responses if the genders were reversed.....)[/quote]

I guess I don't agree that letting your partner know you need time and space to cool off = silent treatment. If a woman (or a man) does it to punish their spouse or freeze them out, that's one thing. But if either spouse needs a few hours or a day to gather their thoughts before sitting down to have a calm conversation, I fail to see how that's abuse. Can you explain? [/quote]

The two are very different and the non-silent party knows the difference.  For example, my mother refuses to talk to me for days.  She has a scowl on her face the entire time to let you know that she is NOT happy.   It creates all kinds of negative/stressful energy.  She drops it as soon as she gets her way.  [/quote]

That's totally different from what PP are saying, and even different from the example OP gave. I would agree that such a situation is abusive because your mother was using her silence to pressure you and punish you, not to cool off from a disagreement.

I usually tell my husband, "look, we're not getting anywhere. Let's just drop it for now and talk tomorrow/after work/etc". It's still really hard for him to just stop the conversation because he likes to have it out right then and there, but he knows I'm not just ignoring him. [/quote]

in your scenario, PP, you've actually communicated and your DH is being obtuse (at best) in trying to force the conversation.  But in the situation that OP has described, his DW is not communicating anything and is just behaving all pissy and giving him the silent treatment.[/quote]

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