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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I use “introverts” in quotes because I don’t want to lump an entire group into one negative lump, but why do people feel it’s ok to go out for dinner and just...observe the conversation. I went out last night with 3 friends, incl one “introvert” or whatever, and I felt like the three of us were just there to entertain her.  When you socialize with people, you have to try a little.  We are not there to provide interesting conversation and gossip for you to just take in.   Make yourself a little vulnerable and share something about your life, or put forward and observation of your own please.  [/quote]

I’m a “social introvert”. I enjoy balancing me or me + immediate family time with friends time. I can do a whole evening with people I’m very close with or a few hours with a less well-known group. However, I do not like the fake intimacy of disclosing something sensitive early in meeting people. I also don’t like being the custodian of casual friends’ embarrassing secrets. The situation you describe always just seems like the phone call scene in Mean Girls.

I am perfectly capable of having engaging conversations that don’t require emotional vulnerability from anyone. If the only topics you find interesting are gossipy ones, that’s very limiting. Many of us were raised to be private about certain topics and to not to say anything if we can’t say something nice.[/quote]

+1 OP seems like she wants to be in control of every part of every situation for her own enjoyment. This is render than being a pleaseant, if reserved, companion.[/quote]

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PARANOID.[/quote]

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