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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I follow Janet Lansbury and I have a 3 yo and a baby. My 3 yo had a brief phase of trying to hurt the baby in various ways (biting was a favorite). I took away her favorite thing for increasing amounts of time. First offense, one day. Second offense, two days, etc. By four days without it and asking a million times every day and getting the same "unruffled" response she finally got it. She no longer hurts the baby.

If you're doing everything else (modeling, 1:1 attention, etc.) than I think you absolutely need to enforce some negative consequence. You need to protect the baby, that's the priority. I'd lose my mind if older DC nearly pushed younger DC down the stairs. That is not a time to worry about your reaction being a source of attention. [/quote]

Can you please share some more info? This is helpful. My son just turned 3, so he’s young.

And I have lost my mind. I get so upset. It’s really scary and upsetting to see the baby getting so hurt for no reason.

But then, according to the books, but reactions are JUST want DS1 wants.[/quote]

I'm the PP above. I get it, I felt absolute rage then regret anytime older DC would.hurt the baby. I don't 100% buy into Janet's zero reaction unruffled thing. Yes, the day to day annoyances when no one is going to get hurt, I think it's fine. But when someone is at risk we say "danger danger" and my DD knows that someone could get hurt and whatever I'm telling her I to keep her safe. What's your DS's favorite thing? A toy? Screen time? Play doh? As long as it's not a toy he relies on for sleep then take it away and put it somewhere he can see it but not get to it. The first time and every time he asks remind him he cant have it for X days because he did Y which hurt his sibling. No emotion. Just fact. When you observe maybe something starting to go sideways remind him that you don't want to, but it he hurts the baby you have to take away the thing again and this time it will be longer. Stand your ground. Follow through. Do not cave in. [/quote]

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