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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you tell him she can’t come it will immediately look like you’re trying to f^%* him. Say goodbye to your friendship. [/quote]

This is what I was thinking too, she hasn't met you and doesn't know the dynamic so if you say no she'll feel even more threatened. I think inviting her along is a good chance to show here there's nothing to worry about.... But the real question is if he's that good of a friend and you really have no interest, why don't you want to get to know his girlfriend? [b]To be honest you don't sound happy that he has a gf, so you should examine your true feelings.[/b] In my single days when I would hang out with my couple friends I rarely felt like a 3rd wheel, so don't go into it with those expectations[/quote]

I disagree with this. A trip with two friends who have frequently traveled together is nothing like going on vacation with a new couple. OP is bummed because its a bucket list trip that she has already sunk money into that is becoming a pretty different kind of trip not that he has a new GF.

I am VERY picky about who I travel with, some people are just impossible. So first problem is GF being a total unknown in that regard. Second is not knowing how they are as a couple, some people change a lot when dating. Are they gonna be inseparable? Making out in line for the Sistine Chapel? All impossible to know before diving in. Maybe GF is super cool and it would be great but the reality is that the dynamics will change significantly if she comes along. OP can be upset about that without pining after OP's friend.[/quote]

I have had people I've never met come on pre-planned trips before, and people drop out of planned trips too- but since they were trips I really wanted to do I still went and had a great time. It's all about attitude, and just because you go to a destination with someone doesn't mean you're glued to their hip 24/7. OP - how about you meet the gf before the trip? Try to make friends with her too, since she's dating your good friend.[/quote]

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