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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi, this is OP. Thanks for everyone's responses. I am a woman, which I understand makes the dynamics of all of this difficult. And I completely understand new GF's feeling a little weird about this...to an extent. I guess part of me feels that this trip was planned before she was even a thing, and while that sucks and makes this awkward, if you trust my friend (which she 100% should), sometimes you just have to suck up being uncomfortable for a week. Should they stay together, we obviously won't be planning a trip like this again. It was just crappy timing how it all worked out. And I really don't want her to be uncomfortable. I'm no threat to her at all. But, ugh.

We have 2bd AirBNBs for the trip, so no sharing rooms or anything like that. No way. I've thought about asking him to buy me out of the trip if she is going, but honestly, I really, really wanted to go on this trip. It was my idea and a bucket list place for me. I'll be upset to not go. But I also don't want to go and have a terrible time. I'm considering telling him that its not OK for her to come, but I know that she will hate me forever and will send our friendship on a faster decline that I know it already is given this new woman in his life. 
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I don't think you can tell him not to bring her, but you can say that you will be planning as many activities as possible solo so that you spend as little time with them as possible.  She might be a great person, but being a third wheel sucks.  [/quote]

I agree, the way you described it seems like he could just buy her a plane tix and they stay together.  I would still go, but plan my own activities and then meet up with them for a few of them.  [/quote]

+1 to this - definitely don't miss your trip because of this. Just go and plan to do most things without them. (They will probably either be having sex or fighting through most of the trip anyway, given the details you have provided.)
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