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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been married 21 years. My siblings almost as long. Parents and aunt and uncle made it 50+. The ring doesn’t matter! A big ring doesn’t predict a happy marriage. I have had many friends with fancy rings who ended up divorced.  I know many many people who proudly wear their tiny engagement rings 20-30 years in, even though they can more than afford to upgrade. It’s not about the size of the ring but the quality of the person you choose to marry. 
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I understand this point of view but would share that my first husband bought me a very small engagement ring. I thought it was very pretty and was not at all unhappy. However after we married, it became more and more clear to me that is a me-first person. Everything was about him. All our household resources went to his pets. Even after he lost his second job and was unemployed for a second time. While this ring was not proof of this mentality, it did underscore what I came to realize: that he is a very narcissistic and self-entitled person. We divorced. I’m remarried. My second husband is much less well educated, much less sophisticated (he has the palate of a 1950s Betty Crocker cookbook!) but he is so warm and sweet and kind and generous. Even though he does not make a ton of money, he bought me a huge ring, because he told me he wanted everyone in a mile radius to know I was married! He changed oil in both our cars and changed the brakes and did car repairs himself on our cars for a few years to save up the money! He’s just a very kind and thoughtful person. [/quote]

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