Notice how it's always the people with the tiny diamonds who have the lasting marriages whenever these thread come up? No one who wanted and got a big ring could ever be happily married nope, only the tiny diamond chip people are virtuous enough to have a long marriage.

Gold Digger... Watch the video and have a laugh.

https://youtu.be/ujPNSC4JllE

Anonymous wrote:I have been married 21 years. My siblings almost as long. Parents and aunt and uncle made it 50+. The ring doesn’t matter! A big ring doesn’t predict a happy marriage. I have had many friends with fancy rings who ended up divorced. I know many many people who proudly wear their tiny engagement rings 20-30 years in, even though they can more than afford to upgrade. It’s not about the size of the ring but the quality of the person you choose to marry.

I understand this point of view but would share that my first husband bought me a very small engagement ring. I thought it was very pretty and was not at all unhappy. However after we married, it became more and more clear to me that is a me-first person. Everything was about him. All our household resources went to his pets. Even after he lost his second job and was unemployed for a second time. While this ring was not proof of this mentality, it did underscore what I came to realize: that he is a very narcissistic and self-entitled person. We divorced. I’m remarried. My second husband is much less well educated, much less sophisticated (he has the palate of a 1950s Betty Crocker cookbook!) but he is so warm and sweet and kind and generous. Even though he does not make a ton of money, he bought me a huge ring, because he told me he wanted everyone in a mile radius to know I was married! He changed oil in both our cars and changed the brakes and did car repairs himself on our cars for a few years to save up the money! He’s just a very kind and thoughtful person.

I have a modest, but very unique ring. I've seen other ones I thought were pretty, but never have I wanted something else than my own lovely ring. It is precious to me.

My boyfriend is going to propose soon and we’ve discussed rings. I truly want a small, modest ring. I don’t wear jewelry, especially rings, and I hate the idea of an obnoxious ring. He makes a lot of money. I asked him to please not spend more than $3k and he said “no way, I want you to sink when you jump in the pool”.

I’ll be embarrassed with a big/ expensive ring. He thinks I’m just being nice but I’m honestly worried!

My wife is petite and didn't want a ring over ~1.25 ct. I was looking at 2 ct rings with her (yes, I know the surprise was somewhat lost) and she talked me down. Maybe she regrets it now. But she claims to love her ring still

A 1 carat is a big ring?!!

I would have been happy with a gemstone. I honestly didn't care.

I was shocked at the size of the ring he got me, it was much bigger than I expected.

I expected that I'd get a big ring in general, before I met my now husband. But then I fell in love with an academic. I know I could have easily done better in the $$$ and ring department, but I don't regret my choice because he's the one I loved the most. But I do occasionally get envious when I see a really pretty ring.

Yes because we shopped and budgeted together. I picked a few I liked. At the time I made 80% of our income. I sold some stock and gave him 75% of our budget and a few months later he proposed with one of the rings we picked.

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Oh. Are you thinking about WWII? Is that how old you are? Because women do all those things now, too. Except changing the oil so much; no one I know changes their own oil anymore.

Yeah, right, women in the military are better known for getting pregnant while on active service so they don't have to deploy. Tell me you knew.

Also, I always change my own oil.

I actually only wanted a wedding band, and he got me a big ring. I was really mad, although I never told him and acted happy, that he wasted that amount of money. It honestly seems immoral and gross to me to have that much money on your finger.

We're now divorced. I sold the ring at a consignment store for 1/6th of what he paid for it, after shopping it around a lot. These things are ridiculously overpriced.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a modern feminist man. I buy my own jewelry, and she buys her own jewelry.

Hope you have babies pop out of small orifices, get periods, wax your genetalia and stuff, too. I mean, equality and all.

That's okay, we'll just keep on mowing the lawn, changing the oil, working more hours, dying for your freedom, and knowing when to keep our yaps shut.

Oh. Are you thinking about WWII? Is that how old you are? Because women do all those things now, too. Except changing the oil so much; no one I know changes their own oil anymore.

Why do you expect a big ring? Did you buy your husband a big ring, too?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a modern feminist man. I buy my own jewelry, and she buys her own jewelry.

Hope you have babies pop out of small orifices, get periods, wax your genetalia and stuff, too. I mean, equality and all.

That's okay, we'll just keep on mowing the lawn, changing the oil, working more hours, dying for your freedom, and knowing when to keep our yaps shut.