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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have never seen a MIL who thinks her son should prioritize her over his kids, over his wife, maybe, but not kids. Most grandmas I know, put their grand kids above their own kids. But, I am not from US, so who knows.[/quote]

You haven't met mine then. One year she literally asked my husband to leave me and our young kids (baby and toddler) at home for the holiday break and come celebrate alone with her. Her reasoning was that it would be nice for the two of them to celebrate "like in the old days", and it was fine to leave us because the kids "didn't understand Christmas yet anyway" and I'm of a different religion. She was devastated, didn't speak to her son for months (and blamed me) when he said no. He declined before he even told me about it, but I'm sure it makes her feel better to think I made him say no. We did celebrate at home, like we always do, and she was invited to come join us, but she refused.

I am not from the US either, though husband and MIL are. It saddens me that my MIL views me and her grandkids as competition. I have friends with awesome MILs who provide love and support and eagerly help with the kids. Mine only thinks about herself and shows interest in the grandchildren when it suits her.

I should've known though... when my husband first introduced us, she refused to even acknowledge me and pointedly told her son not to rush things as she was in no hurry/not ready to become a grandma. (We were in our 30s and she was pushing 60). [/quote]

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