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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Coach, he is going to need 24/7 care and that money is better used to hire a caretaker and to help SIL.  You have no idea what is is like to care for someone in that situation.  They should get hospice in if they can get him health insurance, which generally covers it - medicare pays hospice but they are not full time providers in less you stay in the hospice home.  You and your husband get no opinion as you are not willing to step up and care for him.  You are greedy.[/quote]

OP here. I agree with many of you that this is nuts. But as I said, it’s a long story. I have little say here, though my preference was to keep FIL with us. My SIL is very difficult and is adamant that FIL go to their home. Regarding being called cheap, DH and I are ready and willing to pay FIL’s expenses after he exhausts his savings, which is a strong likelihood, and we have already willingly incurred lots of expenses for his care. This is not about us being cheap, though it may well be about SIL being cheap. DH and SIL are now not speaking. My plan was to look into the cost to upgrade and try to get BIL to agree to let me cover the difference for both their tickets (if SIL catches wind if it she will be furious, taking it as a criticism). SIL has vehemently refused to allow hospice to come in yet but she will have to allow them at some point. I’ve seen family members die protracted, ugly deaths from cancer; SIL and BIL have not, and I don’t think they have a real grasp of what they’re in for.

The whole situation is really sad and feels really bad. [/quote]

You don't have to hand him over and this really makes no sense.  You say no.  Have the doctor say he cannot make the trip.  No, you aren't required to have hospice.  First vs. coach is not a big deal.  It sounds like its a terrible idea to move him.  We moved my MIL cross country and it was very difficult with the dementia.  Luckily she was still able to manage then but if we waited any longer it would not have worked.[/quote]

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