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[quote=Anonymous]I’m younger (40) but for some reason clicked on this forum and saw this...

20-25 years ago my FIL hit my SIl (I only learned recently) and my MiL said she’d leave him. She didn’t and that SIl doesn’t have a relationship with her parents, feeling her mother picked her husband over her.

12 years ago my FIL did some things to  (verbally abusive and physically restrained (pinned down / sat on) my other SIl who was 7 months pregnant. My SIl said she was going to call the police. MIL begged her not to. SIl said “why do you stay with him?” And MiL said “I wish I’d divorced him, but now he’d get half of everything.” That daufhter barely has a relationship with her mother.

I think my BiL (30s) lives at home / never moved out because he is trying to help his mom.

I don’t know all that goes on in that relationship, but often think my MiL would be happier if she’d divorced 20 plus years ago even if she’d started over. She’s now early 70s and I think feels stuck. Last time I saw her I said “I’ll say this once and then drop it, but we are prepared to have you live with us if you want if you ever leave him”. She just said “thank you.”

I know you’re scared to be alone, but there’s a possibility of keeping the spouse at the cost of your children. Not saying this is your situation, but worth reflecting on. [/quote]

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