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[quote=Anonymous]This is OP. The source of his depression seems to be internal. We didn't have financial, health, or marital problems when his decline began. He stopped wanting sex, though. He's often sick and when he has so much as a stubbed toe or sniffle he won't do anything. He's always been like that.

I have done every single thing suggested here to help him, and more. I've nudged his close friends to reach out to him; come up with activities I know he likes and encouraged him to suggest things we can do with or for him. He doesn't lie in bed all day; he just won't work. I'll occasionally come home to find he's spent half the day researching new mobile service for us, though we didn't need to change it. When his relative was sick he showed real competence in helping him. He can work. His therapist says he can work. I've encouraged him to volunteer and he says he couldn't keep the commitment- though his therapist said it would be great for home.

We've had many conversations about how I can help. There's never anything. Except He told me not to ask him what he's got planned for the day because he feels bad not to have anything planned. I asked him to ask his therapist how I can help. He said he wouldn't do that. I asked if the therapist had any concerns about how I treat him or how I handle this and he said that's not an issue.

My friends have been telling me to give up on his ever working again. They're saying to leave him. I hadn't wanted to do that for my family's sake.

I am not perfect but I have no solutions. He just won't work, and that's the problem.

I'm depressed and I'm living up to my responsibilities. I don't have a choice. I don't see how anyone with a family could believe they have a choice about that.

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