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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone has speculated that a move would be terrible for the kids because they’re mad at OP’s wife for having an affair. But no one actually knows if the move would be that bad for them. She could very well be an outstanding mother and her new husband a great stepdad. The way their relationship started is irrelevant so stop focusing on that. The issue is how the kids will be treated now. Period. [/quote]

Child of divorce here who had a great stepfather and who's dad actually moved away, mom did not move away.

A good stepdad cannot replace a father. If you are the child of a divorce and have a father who is committed and involved and who you see 50% of the time THAT is best for the child. No one can replace an actual parent. Stepparents can be great invaluable people who are family, but if you have an involved committed dad, stepdad is never going to be able to fill a void that doesn't exist. And it is negligent parenting IMO to intentionally remove yourself from an environment where your kids have access to both parents (if both parents are good parents). Period.

And there is no way this PARTICULAR stepfather is going to be able to replace the void because he is the reason the parents split up and eventually the kids will know that and be extremely resentful.

Dads are important. Having a good dad has an actual measurable effect on a child's emotional and general health and success later in life. Mom might be a good day to day mom but trying to move kids away from an involved dad is BAD parenting. And so is having an affair and breaking up your family.[/quote]

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