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[quote=Anonymous]I think that you did use her as an emotional crutch but I don't think it was malicious. I do think however that at 55 I have a hard time believing that you had absolutely no clue that she might have had more feelings and that you didn't just brush them aside or try to ignore them before.

I don't think that the relationship is over - but I do think the dynamics and nature of the relationship is changed. She provided that level of support because of her feelings for you. If she only saw you as "big brother" she may not have provided that LEVEL of emotional support and constant source of affirmation/affection/assurance, etc.

You will not get back to "what you had" because she will not feel what she has now knowing that you don't feel the same. On top of that, she's possibly embarrassed that you don't after expressing it to you.

I would leave her alone for awhile. I would not give her reasons you don't feel the same - if given opportunity it's okay to simply say "I don't have those romantic feelings for you". Most people get it without you dictating the reasons.

Be more careful with future opposite sex friendships and clear the air earlier moving forward.[/quote]

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