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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much of yoyr paycheck is negated between daycare/nanny and outsourcing "everything" so that you can be 100% engaged with your 1 kid when you finally do get home from work?
That's gotta be nearly your whole monthly paycheck, No?

And to the poster upthread whose kid spends Sat night with grandparents - How can you spend 2 hrs in the morning AND be home at 530pm to spend the evening with your kid? What type of job allows that - no commute, do you not sleep, and you still make enough money to afford the nanny and outsource every household duty and maintenance?[/quote]

So, nothing against mom who thinks she does have it all, but I know someone who has a similar setup.  She does outwardly appear very balanced and will say all is good, but like many things the closer you are the more cracks you see. Yes, my friend owns her own small business, but it’s a lot of work. She claims to come home early most nights, but in reality there are many nights a week she gets home right as her dd is going to sleep. She’s supposed to have a three day weekend every week, but it’s usually every other week if that. And weekends are kind of a disaster for her. Her 2yo gets confused by lack of routine. Nanny is very strict. Mom is not so much. Yes, she has a great nanny, but mom has admitted nanny is a better caregiver than herself, and she says it so much it I think it really bothers her deep down. (Mom has anxiety and is in therapy) Nanny is bonded to child but mom wants her dd to go to amazing preschool as well, and they are trying to figure how to have both now, and mom told me it really isn’t possible. She also is obsessed with having a perfect family situation. Everything has to be the best way. Her dd has to develop perfectly. (Mom definitely perceives her only child as a reflection of herself. Separate issue I guess.) She will never have another child because she can’t make that work anywhere near as well, which again is fine, but mom talks about it so much I think it really hurts her that her dd can’t have a sibling. Also, her DH makes much less than her. Think blue collar. She’s the breadwinner. It’s a lot. Overwhelming.

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