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[quote=Anonymous]I feel like I'm in the middle here. On the one hand, we have some kids over whose parents [i]never[/i] reciprocate. If my DS is a fan of those kids, I do keep extending invitations (just spaced further and further apart) because it's not the kids who should be punished for an oversight of their parents. If my DS doesn't bring up that kid, I just let the playdates fizzle out. But I have always privately thought it's a bit weird/rude to NEVER manage one invitation in return, even if it's an invitation to meet at a playground or a park.

On the other hand, we have thrown both large and small birthday parties. If you throw a large party, yes, of course you should invite the entire class. But I can tell you that it is not easy to host these kinds of things. First, people are terrible about RSVPing. I had one party where we had 18 RSVPs, so I created 20 party favors. Three families showed up who had not RSVPed. One showed up with not one but two uninvited siblings!! One kid and sibling showed up and they had said "no" to the evite. I think the less you know people, the more random and rude these things can get. Second, my son's birthday is in September. We often don't have a class roster, so we have to go off of last year's parent directory. That is not ideal as this area has a lot of new kids who show up.

If you throw a small party, it's a lot easier to rent a venue and it's a lot less stress for me. I think my DS  has a hard time picking who to invite and it's often done based on who he enjoys being with, not really any thought to who is most likely to become a fast friend that upcoming year. (In other words, he may pick someone who was in his homeroom last year, but isn't this year, without an awareness that they may go separate ways in this upcoming year.) We get some reciprocal invitations and some not, so you can't really invite people expecting anythign in return.

The bottom line is to really focus on what is right for your kid and your family. The rest of it is just not in your control!

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