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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just curious if anyone here has aging parents where one spouse wants out?  My very conservative non-practicing Catholic parents have been married since 1967. Married right after college graduation. Pregnant with oldest sibling on wedding night. He worked his ads off for our family and she dud everything else and stayed home, even after we were out of the house. Hes retired now. Morbidly obese. Diabetic. Either cannot or will not do anything to help out around the house. Hes a bit of a jackass (hes the guy that will complain to management if his food isn't properly prepared....oy). She comments that being with him is spirit breaking. Shes looking at places to live after he dies *shes assuming he'll go first).

Anyways, just curious if anyone's parents divorced or badly wanted to divorce very late in life? What happened to each parent? How did it affect relationships in the family? Anyone end up being the caregiver to the dependent parent? [/quote]

The primary question might be finances--who pays for what?  I know of several couples who got divorced in their 60s.  I know of one that is functionally separated, living in a duplex, with wife and husband having both separate accounts and a joint account for common expenses.  It's not perfect, but it takes care of the biggest challenges they face: having different interests, one constantly demanding help and services from the other who is not inclined to give it because the asker does little to help him/herself, not wanting to spend time together in leisure activities (just don't get along).  But they can make $ decisions together with just a little arguing.  When it comes to the point where they cant do the financial decisionmaking together, I think it makes sense to very seriously consider divorce, that way one person is not accountable for the "poor" decisionmaking of the other.  And, yes, when the divorce happens, the kid(s) likely will take up the caregiving slack of the least physically able parent.[/quote]

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