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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: 
-Yes I agree it's a parenting issue, I guess I was looking for support and advice on how to handle this
-She eats almost no processed sugar or carbs  - we mostly cook from scratch and eat fresh fruits and vegetables every day
-She does have a weak immune system, especially a weak respiratory system, that's always been the case. During good times she does fine, but we moved here from overseas last year so I think she's catching all the bugs here before she rebuilds her immunity

Question: [b]any advice on the words I can use to get her to understand the issue and to listen to me better, with less conflict? (Before I get flamed for being a pushover - I'm not a pushover and my kids are quite reasonable in general. I'm just having a hard time dealing with this particular issue, that's why I'm here.)[/b]

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OP, it sounds like this is the one issue your daughter gives pushback and that's when your parenting falls apart. Good parenting is not giving an instruction and having a child somewhat happily comply. It's staying respectful and firm when the child freaks out in disagreement.

The words you are looking for "Your father and I decided one sleepover each weekend, and no birthday parties on days you also have soccer games. It is important to have down time for adequate rest." (or whatever boundaries you think she needs). Repeat as necessary. Your consistency will be what gradually leads to her grudging acceptance. Right now you've taught her to complain until she gets her way. Expect her to complain even more for a while as she tries to find your new "push over point".

Also, give up the idea that she will "understand" why you have these rules. She is becoming a teenager. By definition she will push back on every reasonable boundary you set for her. It's what they do. If it helps you, just remember that deep down they are relieved when you stick to your guns. It shows them its safe to spread their wings a little because you are still watching out for them and won't let them do anything too stupid.[/quote]

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