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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find this entire thread sad, and indicative of why kids are confused nowadays. Extrapolating everything out to the nth degree is what gets us idiots shaming girls for wearing a non-western styled dress for “insensitive cultural appropriation”. You should not make everything a moral equivalent. Teaching kids social graces in a middle school dance is not the same as consenting to an intimate sexual relationship. It just isn’t.

By teaching them that it’s all the same, you are not teaching them how to recognize and navigate complexity. You are teaching them that everything is a Big Deal and no critical thinking is necessary. Just fall back onto stereotypes, view everything in a particular context or single narrative (gender, race, whatever), and scream away whenever a situation doesn’t fall into your particular version of reality.

I’m teaching my kid not to be a mean girl and gang up and giggle on the kid who isn’t the prettiest jock in the school. Unless there is a known history of the other person being a total jerk to you, you always be kind and try something once. So yes, for a MS dance, absent some compelling circumstance, you say yes. My son will be the same message when he hits that age. [/quote]

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THANK YOU for interjecting some much needed common sense to this thread.  Honestly, only on DCUM would you find people insisting that accepting an invitation to dance is tantamount to having sex.  Is there no nuance, no critical thinking anymore?

I have always urged my kids - both boys AND girls - to accept an invitation to dance.  Frankly, it's rude not to, unless it's someone who has done something aggressive or inappropriate before.  Then of course it's perfectly fine to decline.  That's called "nuance."  Otherwise, assuming a nice, normal person, it's just considerate to say yes to a dance.  It's NO BIG DEAL, but more importantly, it's a kindness.  [/quote]

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