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I'm 19:39.

Contrary to popular opinion, yes, there are children who will go into FAILURE TO THRIVE, through not eating enough.

The idea that no child will allow himself to starve is a damageable myth.

My son was in failure to thrive as a toddler, and put on a high calorie diet, and is now again in the 2nd percentile as a tween, which is of great concern to his pediatrician.

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There are FTT kids, but yelling at them to eat is not the solution.   [/quote]
There are indeed kids like this, but not sure if this is OP's kid.

OP, I am/have been in your shoes.  When our kids don't want to eat what's put in front of them, they eat sloooowly, and just a few bites, my DH yells at them.  I, too, get upset at them, but like you, yell less.  We get upset because we don't want them to be picky eaters, and only eat what they like. We want them to learn that sometimes you will be served something you don't like, and you just have to deal with it.

We had a rule where whatever you didn't eat for dinner it was your breakfast or lunch the next day, and you don't get any dessert or treat until that meal is finished.  We don't like to waste food either.  It's happened a few times over the years.  My kids are older than your's now, and while they still at times hem and haw when they are served what they don't like, they will still eat it. The older one has learned to eat whatever he doesn't like first to get it over with.  I have toned it down, but DH still at times gets very stern with our younger one over this. I have told him to stop it because I don't want DC to have an eating disorder later in life.  Just calmly tell your DC that she can have that for breakfast the next day.  Again, if she doesn't have a case of failure to thrive, hopefully she will get the message.

I agree with you.. you shouldn't always just cook your DC's favorite. I try to cook a variety of things.. sometimes my favorite, sometimes one of the kid's favorites, and they both have different favorites. I'm not a short order cook. I don't cook things on demand.     I can make allowances for a 5 year old, but when a 12 year old is over my house for dinner and doesn't like what's for dinner, I'm not making something else for that kid.  Having  a dinner party can be a pia when there are picky eaters.

Your DC is still young, so you will struggle with this. Be patient, and calm (I know.. it's hard. I can say this in hindsight). [/quote]
I totally reminds me of my childhood friend's home. Her mom wanted her to eat (my parents were "she would not starve" type), so she would not let us from the table. I could not eat the food provided, so I pretended to eat, while waiting for her mom to get distracted, so I can run to the bathroom and throw away my food. I hated that food. [/quote]

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