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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love puttering and projects. I do most of the normal upkeep on the house like painting and small carpentry repairs. There are times when I really need a hand - someone to hold the ladder, or lift the other end of the plank. But my DH would much prefer to hire out the work than do it himself, so it would be unfair of me to plan to, say, paint the porch this weekend and then expect him to join me in a day of painting. It's fair to ask him to run to Home Depot for me once, or ask him to cook dinner so I can keep painting, since he does benefit from the porch being painted. But not okay for me to hijack his time.[/quote]

Kind of a similar dynamic here.  I prefer to do small projects on my own, while my DH would prefer to hire out most things. We both work FT, but he has less free time than I do (part of the reason that he likes to hire out). I deliberately try to plan my projects for when I know that DH won't be home, so that he doesn't feel guilty about not helping. It bugs him to be sitting on the couch when I'm up and working, even when it's 100% my own choice.  He definitely will help out when I need him to, even if it's something that he doesn't care about at all, like my garden beds.  however, if there were too many open ongoing projects, I know that he'd start getting quotes for someone else to come and do the work - good motivation for me to not overextend.[/quote]

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