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[quote=Anonymous]I watched my mother react to my sister's divorce.  Sister was 28, married only 2 years.  My mother was terrible.  She took it like it was a personal failure on her part. None of the reasons my sister shared were good enough for my mother.  (To be fair, my sister was very reserved and never gave many details... just made the decision one day, told everyone the next, and immediately put her mind to it.. )

The whole situation caused a lot of damage to their relationship.  My mother was searching for a way to understand, a way to deal with her own guilt for the situation, etc.,etc.  My sister was embarrassed and really didn't want to talk about the situation. My mom just couldn't let it go and was relentless in her pursuit of "why" this had happened to her daughter.. and to herself.

I think it would have been much better if my mother had simply listened and been supportive.  Spent a lot less time asking questions and looking for what was the "good enough" or "right" answer. Just accepted that sometimes things don't work out and there doesn't have to be any major reason to explain why. It isnt always a case of someone cheating, or being abusive.  Sometimes it is just a mistake and that is ok.[/quote]

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