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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No my husband and I look at it the way we would a nanny whom we were paying to come to our house. When he gets home from work, I "clock out" as the default caregiver and we share duties. Why? Because this is what we both expect from a "good" husband and father. He wants to be involved in our children's lives.

Ya'll need to have serious conversations with your husbands.[/quote]

No this could be different. In your scenario you both work 40 hours in parallel. So her DH is entitled to 80 hrs/wk for work and recuperating from work (b/c 70 hr high stress jobs as the sole breadwinner is a LOT OF STRESS. Way more than balancing a toddlers screen time. ). We decided both of us working was a better dynamic for us, but the sole breadwinner is different unless you have family money or a lot saved up from before you quit or live somewhere cheap so pressure is off breadwinner[/quote]

I am not quite sure that I understand your scenario.  Does a 70 hr/wk high stress job suddenly become less stressful if your spouse is also working? [/quote]
Yes, because you will not have to work 70 hours a week. If your spouse also works, you can work less because there is additional income to meet the family's needs.[/quote]

Ok.  Who are all of these men who are voluntarily mommy tracking themselves and taking on a significant share of unpaid/unrecognized domestic duties so their wives can return to work?  Oh, and are greatful to do it?

I have never seen this in real life.

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I deliberately took a govt contracting IT job rather than staying a startup which I loved for exactly this reason. I wanted to spend time with my kids, and am happy to do my share of the domestic duties (and clean much better than my DW, probably that detailed mindedness from programming).

DW prefers dual incomes b/c her dad was breadwinner but fell ill when she was in grade school and couldn’t work anymore and then her mom had to start a career from scratch. 
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