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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No my husband and I look at it the way we would a nanny whom we were paying to come to our house. When he gets home from work, I "clock out" as the default caregiver and we share duties. Why? Because this is what we both expect from a "good" husband and father. He wants to be involved in our children's lives.

Ya'll need to have serious conversations with your husbands.[/quote]

No this could be different. In your scenario you both work 40 hours in parallel. So her DH is entitled to 80 hrs/wk for work and recuperating from work (b/c 70 hr high stress jobs as the sole breadwinner is a LOT OF STRESS. Way more than balancing a toddlers screen time. ). We decided both of us working was a better dynamic for us, but the sole breadwinner is different unless you have family money or a lot saved up from before you quit or live somewhere cheap so pressure is off breadwinner[/quote]

I am not quite sure that I understand your scenario.  Does a 70 hr/wk high stress job suddenly become less stressful if your spouse is also working? [/quote]
Yes, because you will not have to work 70 hours a week. If your spouse also works, you can work less because there is additional income to meet the family's needs.[/quote]

For the majority of people, working more does not mean more money. My DH works 60 hour weeks because he's a workaholic but he's paid for 40 hours. I know for a fact that 90% of his coworkers leave after their 8 hours are done at work. I think men (and women of course, but this is a thread about a working man) just have to choose between family and work. Sole breadwinners know they need the work. Dual income men choose family normally because if something happened to their jobs, their wives are still bringing in income. [/quote]

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