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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate that my wife kept her name. It's one thing I would change about her and our marriage if I could. It's embarrassing to me and makes me sad that we will never be able to send out Christmas cards from the (last name)[/quote]

I kept my last name yet always send out Christmas cards from the “Smith” Family. I also tell my friends to go ahead and use my husbands name when sending things so I receive a lot of mail to the “Smith” family. I don’t care the my last name is not specifically mentioned on the card, wedding invite, etc.  Socially we go by my husbands name and professionally I use my name. I also don’t have an issue being addressed as Mrs “Smith” by the kids teachers.  If your wife has issues using your name socially then maybe it is time for a discussion to figure out why she is so adamant to not use your name.  Her explanation may help you understand the issue but I am betting this is a control thing on your part if you are embarrassed by this. Honestly, this would be a huge red flag if my husband was embarrassed. [/quote]

This is a good idea - using it socially. Maybe I will bring that idea up later on after we have some kids.

I am not so embarrassed that I regret marrying her - not by a long shot. She is mostly perfect, but this one thing about her -- keeping her last name -- bugs me a ton. I don't think my embarrassment is a huge flag. It is normal to be slightly embarrassed about being one of the 2% of husbands whose wives didn't take their name.

It's not like I avoid introducing her to people or something, but .. it's just something that will pretty much always annoy me somewhat as long as we don't have the same last name.[/quote]

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