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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has anyone’s parent truly changed and apologized?

I know the odds of this are essentially zero in my case but I just can’t seem to get my heart to understand that and stop waiting for my mom to come back and be different.[/quote]

My mother has changed. She was only physically and emotionally abusive to me, and not to my siblings. I was the oldest. My dad was a good dad, but not  great husband. I presume he was abusive to her as well. We had a wonderful relationship. He has since died. Ironically, after my father's death (and essentially, the first year I 'moved out'/went to College, she was extra, extra nice to me. I have not seen the patterns anymore. She has turned to codependency (with my siblings), where she now spoils them, and they take advantage of her.

Even then, she has never said she is sorry, or even talked about what happened. I have not said anything to her either. I suspect her excuse will be that it was culturally appropriate to hit your child (it was more than slaps, kicks, punches etc. she once threatened that she would burn my hands, and turned on the stove, and led me to it) We are not close. I don't plan on visiting any time soon. DD is 4 years old and has never been to visit either. (Mom lives overseas). She did come to visit DD, and is very pleasant to her. [/quote]

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