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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Normalizing the idea that both parties can do the asking and that it isn’t the boy’s job to do the asking helps level the dating playing field. Girls shouldn’t have to be passive spectators, hoping that some guy will ask them to prom. Girls and boys alike should be free to ask and accept or reject as appropriate. [/quote]

I view this the opposite.  Girls have more power by forcing boys to put themselves out there and express interest in a girl.  If girls have to do the asking it means that girls are letting the boy do the deciding.

When a man asks a woman to marry, who do you think has the advantage?  I say the woman.  [/quote]

[b] I guess I’m trying to teach my kids to strive for equality (or something close) in their relationships, not constantly game them for the upper hand. [/b] [/quote]

This. There's nothing worse than movies and such that show someone, man or woman, manipulating and scheming to "get" someone else. Ick. To me, the whole promposal thing (as well as elaborate public wedding proposals) is along that same line: putting someone in a position where, socially, they feel pressured to say yes to this person who has created this public spectacle. I don't think women are ultimately marrying a man because he proposed in a certain way, but I wonder how many girls say yes to promposals just because they don't want to make a scene or embarrass the boy.

And I've always especially hated the idea of "Sadie Hawkins" dances—as though it's the girls' one chance to do the asking.

I think those are more common in the South these days, though, judging by Facebook posts from my high school friends. Do any schools around here do Sadie Hawkins-type dances, where the girls are supposed to do the asking?[/quote]

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