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[quote=Anonymous]Almost 20 years with four kids and very happily married.  DH knows how to communicate & share feelings (which I didn't know was so rare at the time), neither of us has a need to be "right," we are kind to one another and we realize a good marriage takes work and we both make an effort to do things that we know are important to the other.  For example I made a big effort to jump start our sex life after the small baby stage not because I was feeling it but knew it was super important to him.  He makes a big effort to be helpful around the house because he knows that is important to me.  We also assume good intention.  If one of us says something that hurts the other's feelings, we don't assume it was intentional.

I will say that one of the most important things we did was go into this marriage with our eyes wide open.  I wasn't one of those women desperate to get married - I was very secure in who I was as a person and my career and only wanted to marry someone that I felt was compatible for the long haul (someone who would take care of me when I was sick, someone I could have reasonable conversations without very tough topics like money, would I take time off after having kids, how many kids, where to live, etc. etc.).  We got all of that out on the table before marriage and it wasn't that we figured our whole life out beforehand but we developed a shared history of talking about them and problem solving together.[/quote]

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