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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never understand these spouses ho keep their finances separate. It’s easier if you actually act married and have a joint account. You brought this on yourself.[/quote]

Not OP, it’s not for you to understand. Just because you don’t do something does not mean it doesn’t work for others. My husband and I have separate finances, have never disagreeed about money and it works for us. He pays for everything, we have no debt except a mortgage and we have successful careers.

If someone is in an abusive relationship or their spouse or partner is reckless with money you absolutely should keep your finances separate for the reasons of financial security to get out of an abusive relationship or to ensure the bills get paid if your spouse or partner is going to blow their paycheck once it’s deposited. One of the main reasons victims of abuse never leave is because they have no money to do it. A separate savings or checking your spouse does not have access to is not a bad thing unless you are buying drugs or hookers, etc...[/quote]

What?!?

I agree separate finances are important in cases of abuse. However, I’m not in an abusive marriage and I’m not planning my life as if my spouse is going to suddenly decide to become abusive and reckless with money (despite never having done either.) Your defense of separate finances proves my point. If you have these types of concerns about your partner, you probably shouldn’t be married. Seriously, why would you stay with a partner like this? The separate finances seems like the canary in the coal mine as being indicative of much larger issues - most notably a terrible marriage. Get out. You don’t have to live like this. [/quote]

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