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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, his behavior reminds me of my father's, and that story has a rather sad ending. DH needs counseling.[/quote]

What happened to him?[/quote]

He was never properly diagnosed, but he has severe personality issues that prevented him from achieving his full potential as a professional and as a human being. He's also been depressed for decades with suicidal tendencies. He never got medication and/or counseling and self-medicated with alcohol. His alcoholism destroyed his already broken personality, his professional life, and his family. Neither my mother, nor I want to have anything to do with this violently ill man. None of his extended family want to do anything with him. He is isolated and miserable at his 70 years of age blaming everyone for abandoning him.

What OP describes reminds me of my family when I was young. My father was incredibly insecure in the relationship, constantly asked for validation, was a hypochondriac etc. I always thought it stemmed from childhood trauma. He was/is incredibly shy and socially awkward. He had to be separated from his parents at a relatively young age. Their village didn't have school beyond primary, and he went to a boarding school in town. There was no support system in place for someone like him at the time. But then he grew up and made his adult choices, so I'm unwilling to excuse him because his childhood wasn't ideal.[/quote]

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