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[quote=Anonymous]Your DH needs therapy, but it might take some time for him to accept that. Therapy will help him see the situation more clearly. However, he may reject the idea of therapy in the beginning. In the meantime, you need to work with him as he processes this whole situation. Be gentle and calm. Don't bash his parents. You need to help him come to the realization that he needs help for this terrible thing. Therapy (and/or Al-Anon as suggested) will help him to realize that it's not him that is the problem, but them. That is the biggest goal he needs to achieve - his own self-worth. It will be a long road, but one that needs to be taken for the sake of your children and your family.

You also need to hold firm that they cannot come visit or have contact with the children. Ignore phone calls, emails and texts. Do not respond. If you respond you might get into an altercation and that will only make matters worse. Simply let them believe the messages are not getting through or that you're too busy to respond. If you do get caught having to have a conversation fake a commitment that won't allow you to talk long. Be non-committal about any plans. As for the relatives, your husband needs to know that if those relatives believe the parents over him then they are not relatives worth keeping in contact with.

Your children might miss their grandparents for a bit, but they will get over it. They don't have any cousins on that side of the family they are missing so they aren't missing much. They will also have their other grandparents and family members on your side. Foster those healthy relationships![/quote]

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