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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They are broken people, op.  It's hard to comprehend when you come from an average family, but my dh also has broken people for parents and it's been incredibly eye-opening.  My mil has done a similar "disappearing act", to the point my dh ended up calling the police to do a welfare check on her.   I couldn't imagine letting a child of mine worry like that, but broken people don't see it that way.

Therapy for him, and maybe al-anon?  It sounds like their behaviour when drinking is a significant part of the problem?  I'm sorry he is dealing with this, and I hope that perhaps some therapy can help heal his wounds. [/quote]Yes, OP, your husband needs to work with a therapist who has experience with adult children of alcoholics and he might benefit from attending Al-Anon.  His parents are full-blown alcoholics and this is a family disease. Even if your husband doesn't drink or drinks responsibly, the parent's alcoholism affects the children and it can lead to a toxic family dynamic.  Furthermore, your children may have inherited a predisposition to addiction.  Therefore it would be in your best interest to learn more about how alcoholism works in families and work assertively to set limits on your relationship with your in-laws as well as educating your kids.  (For example, it does no good to try to figure them out and convince them to change.  It's hopeless.)  So very sorry you have been going through this.  You don't deserve this.[/quote]

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