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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here....true, I am not interested in being a side piece for a married man.  And, I don't want to get married -- just have a nice relationship with a kind, fun, intellectual man who is great in bed.  Wealth is not a priority but solvency and motivation is.  I guess that narrows it to like .02 percent.

Coincidentally, a friend of a friend just posted this morning on FB that they met their wife on a major mountain out West...so yeah, guess I'll hit the trails....

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I have met a lot of men from dating sites.  And I just don't want to do it anymore.  I basically stopped.  While I was dating, I used to eat out alone a lot, so I'd sit at the bar, and I met several men that way.  I found that I got into a few different kinds of relationships that fed me well for the last six months.  I had the flirty friend who told me how beautiful I was and listened to every complaint and always answered the phone.  Even when I was complaining about other men.  We're not right for each other and it wouldn't have worked out.  Never had sex, but interested in some of the same things.  At the same time, I was sleeping with the hot neighbor I met eating dinner one night.  He was 7 years younger, which was annoying.  I didn't like that he didn't really have solvency, so I was never going to be interested in a relationship.  But the sex was perfect.  So good.  Really good, and so easy.  Every now and then, I'd still hit a point where I'd get lonely and then reactivate some dating account and play around for a day, so I'd set up a date.  That was a good rhythm.

Then, I was just doing things I liked and I met someone.  We've been dating for a month, and it was completely unexpected. So, I had to tell my other friends (the flirty, emotional support friend and the good sex neighbor, and even the guy I dumped, even though the sex was so good, but he's coming into town next month and asked to see me) that I'm seeing someone.  And that was scary.

My whole point is that lots of people meet their significant others on dating sites.  Lots of people meet them in real life.  I think it's perfectly reasonable to change your approach when something's not working or your frustrated.  Use dating sites to keep yourself from being lonely and to be open to that possibility.  Use your interests to open yourself to meeting folks in real life.  All of it is without expectation, or expecting you probably aren't going to meet someone.  I like to let life surprise me.

Don't worry, I'll be on DCUM in 2 weeks complaining about how my boyfriend dumped me.  Whatever.  Just keep moving forward.[/quote]

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