Anonymous wrote:I know a few men you would be interested in but they do not use dating sites. The problem for someone like you is you have to make it through the 20-30 other women who are throwing themselves at each of these men. Trust me these women are all more accomplished vs you.
So in this case, you are much like the loser men you reject on the dating sites. Know its harsh, but really why would any of these high demand men want to date you? Many women have extremely large egos that cloud their reality.

If she's hot, men don't care about her "accomplishments." If you're a woman and in good shape, you'll have many more options than an out-of-shape woman with "accomplishments."

You don't seem to have the grammatical or logical skills to have desirable male friends. You're blowing steam, my friend.

I know a few men you would be interested in but they do not use dating sites. The problem for someone like you is you have to make it through the 20-30 other women who are throwing themselves at each of these men. Trust me these women are all more accomplished vs you.
So in this case, you are much like the loser men you reject on the dating sites. Know its harsh, but really why would any of these high demand men want to date you? Many women have extremely large egos that cloud their reality.

Sometimes being asked out a lot is not a good thing, you may be giving the impression that you’re easy.

It's tough being pretty? HA HA HA!

You have options other people don't have.

Anonymous wrote:OP here....true, I am not interested in being a side piece for a married man. And, I don't want to get married -- just have a nice relationship with a kind, fun, intellectual man who is great in bed. Wealth is not a priority but solvency and motivation is. I guess that narrows it to like .02 percent.

Coincidentally, a friend of a friend just posted this morning on FB that they met their wife on a major mountain out West...so yeah, guess I'll hit the trails....

I have met a lot of men from dating sites. And I just don't want to do it anymore. I basically stopped. While I was dating, I used to eat out alone a lot, so I'd sit at the bar, and I met several men that way. I found that I got into a few different kinds of relationships that fed me well for the last six months. I had the flirty friend who told me how beautiful I was and listened to every complaint and always answered the phone. Even when I was complaining about other men. We're not right for each other and it wouldn't have worked out. Never had sex, but interested in some of the same things. At the same time, I was sleeping with the hot neighbor I met eating dinner one night. He was 7 years younger, which was annoying. I didn't like that he didn't really have solvency, so I was never going to be interested in a relationship. But the sex was perfect. So good. Really good, and so easy. Every now and then, I'd still hit a point where I'd get lonely and then reactivate some dating account and play around for a day, so I'd set up a date. That was a good rhythm.

Then, I was just doing things I liked and I met someone. We've been dating for a month, and it was completely unexpected. So, I had to tell my other friends (the flirty, emotional support friend and the good sex neighbor, and even the guy I dumped, even though the sex was so good, but he's coming into town next month and asked to see me) that I'm seeing someone. And that was scary.

My whole point is that lots of people meet their significant others on dating sites. Lots of people meet them in real life. I think it's perfectly reasonable to change your approach when something's not working or your frustrated. Use dating sites to keep yourself from being lonely and to be open to that possibility. Use your interests to open yourself to meeting folks in real life. All of it is without expectation, or expecting you probably aren't going to meet someone. I like to let life surprise me.

Don't worry, I'll be on DCUM in 2 weeks complaining about how my boyfriend dumped me. Whatever. Just keep moving forward.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here....true, I am not interested in being a side piece for a married man. And, I don't want to get married -- just have a nice relationship with a kind, fun, intellectual man who is great in bed. Wealth is not a priority but solvency and motivation is. I guess that narrows it to like .02 percent.

Coincidentally, a friend of a friend just posted this morning on FB that they met their wife on a major mountain out West...so yeah, guess I'll hit the trails....

I find that women who say they don't want to get married are either lying, or not serious about having a long-term relationship. I'd never be exclusive with a woman who isn't interested in going the distance.

Then you haven't met me. 50, single, fit, financially solvent and a big adventure seeker. I get asked out all the time in real life by coworkers, contractors, guys i thought were in the friend zone.

I was shackled for 17 years and lived a life of compromise. Why in the f&%k would I want to recreate that?

Sometimes being asked out a lot is not a good thing, you may be giving the impression that you’re easy.

Hahahaha. This has to be a joke.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here....true, I am not interested in being a side piece for a married man. And, I don't want to get married -- just have a nice relationship with a kind, fun, intellectual man who is great in bed. Wealth is not a priority but solvency and motivation is. I guess that narrows it to like .02 percent.

Coincidentally, a friend of a friend just posted this morning on FB that they met their wife on a major mountain out West...so yeah, guess I'll hit the trails....

I find that women who say they don't want to get married are either lying, or not serious about having a long-term relationship. I'd never be exclusive with a woman who isn't interested in going the distance.

Then you haven't met me. 50, single, fit, financially solvent and a big adventure seeker. I get asked out all the time in real life by coworkers, contractors, guys i thought were in the friend zone.

I was shackled for 17 years and lived a life of compromise. Why in the f&%k would I want to recreate that?

I think we’re twins. I have young kids and no way do I want to put them in a stepfamily situation. I had to break up with the last two guys I dated because they wanted to get married.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here....true, I am not interested in being a side piece for a married man. And, I don't want to get married -- just have a nice relationship with a kind, fun, intellectual man who is great in bed. Wealth is not a priority but solvency and motivation is. I guess that narrows it to like .02 percent.

Coincidentally, a friend of a friend just posted this morning on FB that they met their wife on a major mountain out West...so yeah, guess I'll hit the trails....

I find that women who say they don't want to get married are either lying, or not serious about having a long-term relationship. I'd never be exclusive with a woman who isn't interested in going the distance.

Then you haven't met me. 50, single, fit, financially solvent and a big adventure seeker. I get asked out all the time in real life by coworkers, contractors, guys i thought were in the friend zone.

I was shackled for 17 years and lived a life of compromise. Why in the f&%k would I want to recreate that?

Sometimes being asked out a lot is not a good thing, you may be giving the impression that you’re easy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you could just be like my STBXW and screw every man who sends her a message on Tinder or Match. 3-5 different guys a week lately. Makes her 'happy'...

Maybe your ex and mine are friends! Mid forties. Doable. Totally DTF anything.

we can swap info, couple of flirty words, you're in. (I'm dead serious)

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Anonymous wrote:OP here....true, I am not interested in being a side piece for a married man. And, I don't want to get married -- just have a nice relationship with a kind, fun, intellectual man who is great in bed. Wealth is not a priority but solvency and motivation is. I guess that narrows it to like .02 percent.

Coincidentally, a friend of a friend just posted this morning on FB that they met their wife on a major mountain out West...so yeah, guess I'll hit the trails....

I find that women who say they don't want to get married are either lying, or not serious about having a long-term relationship. I'd never be exclusive with a woman who isn't interested in going the distance.

Then you haven't met me. 50, single, fit, financially solvent and a big adventure seeker. I get asked out all the time in real life by coworkers, contractors, guys i thought were in the friend zone.

I was shackled for 17 years and lived a life of compromise. Why in the f&%k would I want to recreate that?

Anonymous wrote:Two friends of mine are the kind of men you are looking for. First friend has inherited wealth, so much that he spent a few terms in DC as a "public servant". He has a sailing yacht and his compound back home is so large it has its own lake. He has a wife and a mistress (no, he is not John Kerry). The wife doesn't sail, the mistress does. He also has access to boat bunnies at his home marina. He doesn't do round-the-world sailing trips anymore but does sail from the East Coast to the Caribbean and the Med. You'd never find him on an online dating site.

Second friend is an Air Force fighter pilot. But he is now high ranking so rarely flies. He spent half his childhood in Hawaii and he is back there often to surf dangerous waves. He is also a huge opera aficionado. His wife is skinny, Asian, and hot. He tells me that in Hawaii he always attracts a lot of surfer girls, but he's very devoted to his wife. If he were to become single, he'd never be on a dating site.

Interesting... I am the last person that does not know John Kerry has a mistress?

Anonymous wrote:News flash .

Only 5 percent of the human population is dateable.

It's ugly out there. The Earth is a huge dissapointment. Thank goodness I'm born again and leaving this sewer.

I'm an atheist, but I can't stop laughing .....

Anonymous wrote:I think you're missing the point. These are two fantastic men that the poster knows, and neither will ever need to join a dating site. If single, either will always be in demand.

I don't see anything fantastic about those men. Those types are not hard to find.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you could just be like my STBXW and screw every man who sends her a message on Tinder or Match. 3-5 different guys a week lately. Makes her 'happy'...

Maybe your ex and mine are friends! Mid forties. Doable. Totally DTF anything.

I think you're missing the point. These are two fantastic men that the poster knows, and neither will ever need to join a dating site. If single, either will always be in demand.

Anonymous wrote:Two friends of mine are the kind of men you are looking for. First friend has inherited wealth, so much that he spent a few terms in DC as a "public servant". He has a sailing yacht and his compound back home is so large it has its own lake. He has a wife and a mistress (no, he is not John Kerry). The wife doesn't sail, the mistress does. He also has access to boat bunnies at his home marina. He doesn't do round-the-world sailing trips anymore but does sail from the East Coast to the Caribbean and the Med. You'd never find him on an online dating site.

Second friend is an Air Force fighter pilot. But he is now high ranking so rarely flies. He spent half his childhood in Hawaii and he is back there often to surf dangerous waves. He is also a huge opera aficionado. His wife is skinny, Asian, and hot. He tells me that in Hawaii he always attracts a lot of surfer girls, but he's very devoted to his wife. If he were to become single, he'd never be on a dating site.

You are describing two guys good for no strings attached relationship. I don't think that's what OP wants. Plenty of those on the slopes and in yacht clubs.