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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree custody should be 50/50, if that is how childcare is split during the marriage. But why should the parent, who has worked FT, and done 90 percent of the childcare and 100 percent of the household tasks during the marriage then lose the lion’s share of custody in the divorce?

That parent is already at a disadvantage economically, as he or she has probably taken a lower-paying job in order to have the flexibility needed to be the default parent.[/quote]

Under our current system, all men need to do to ensure 50% custody during divorce is to make sure they do 50% of the childcare and household admin during the marriage.  Take your child to daycare or school 50% of the time.  Go to 50% of the doctor appointments.  Buy children's clothing 50% of the time.  Do carpool 50% of the time.  Go to 50% of the parent/teacher meetings.

The current standard for custody of children in many states is "best interest of the child."  If you do 50% of the care of your child during the entirety of the marriage, then it will be in the best interests of the child that you continue to provide that care.

All mandatory 50/50 custody laws do is ensure that men can fail to care for their children during the course of the marriage and still get half custody after the marriage, and ensure that they pay little to no child support to boot.  And statistic after statistic show that men, by and large although not all of them, consistently fail to do equal childcare.  [/quote]

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