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[quote=Anonymous]I'm surprised everyone is telling the OP to suck it up.  He's not coming fir either holiday; he's coming in between, and right after they get home from TWO WEEKS away.  What if they were coming back from vacation on a random March 10 and her brother announced he wanted to visit them March
11-15, weekdays when they have work and school? I can't imagine anyone NOT saying to tell him no.  The only difference here is its close to a holiday.  But it's still disruptive.

OP, I agree that he is being unreasonable, and I can understand you being fed up with always adjusting your plans for his.  I also understand your point about your daughter - it will suck fir her to have to go to school every day and miss seeing her cousins.  I wouldn't say that would be a reason alone to deny the request, but I see what you are upset about.  Where I think you went wrong was trying to dictate so specifically when (including times!) he could arrive/depart.  I would have just say "We are just getting home on Jan 1 so Jan 2 doesn't work.  You can come Wed or Thurs, and I'd be happy to move up our family Christmas Eve meal to lunch on Saturday before you leave."  If he doesn't accent, tough.  [/quote]

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