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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, this should all have been discussed before getting married. Nothing more important then agreeing on kids. Second, I would also consider the problems with spacing out your 3 kids ages. In the long run you'll be much happier to have the third child closer in age to the second one.

I also have 3 kids and wouldn't have done it any differently.  [/quote]

You can “discuss” stuff like this before getting married, but those discussions are certainly not binding. If she’s not ready to have another baby right now, she’s not ready. If she thought she would be and has since changed her mind based on whatever, it would be absurd and cruel to insist that #3 happen now because “she agreed.”

I also don’t know what you mean by problems with spacing. Plenty of people have kids more than 3 years apart without problems. [/quote]

+1. I thought I wanted 3 kids, one right after the other. After actually having a kid, I know it'll be years before I'm physically and mentally ready for #2, and no way am I doing #3. DH isn't thrilled, but he's not the one who has to deal with pregnancy, childbirth, and the impact of another kid on his career. [/quote]

+1. You can't discuss before marriage! Because who knows? I didn't want children and after having them, we're in love with them and had 3 2 years apart. You really don't know what you want until you're there. [/quote]

+2. I had a breakdown on my 35th birthday (about six months after we were married) because I knew DH wanted children and I just didn't. Then I agreed to 1, and now we have 4 and I love it. You just don't know until you live it.[/quote]

You most definitely should discuss children before marriage. Doesn’t mean you can’t change your mind but you are bringing someone into the world together - pretty serious stuff.[/quote]

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