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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Goodness, some of you are such bean counters.  [b]When a person reaches out to you with an sincere apology[/b], if you can't accept that, then you were not nearly as good friends as you think you are.  The people who are my "good friends" are honest and good and human.  They make mistakes.  They apologize and I believe them and accept their apology at their word.  If I don't trust that person enough to accept an apology, then I would not call them a good friend, but an acquaintance.

My guess is that she didn't want a shower, then someone (another friend or a family member) insisted she have a shower and then threw one.  Possibly the host made up the invitee list or your friend gave the host a list of people to invite and forgot to add your name to the list and didn't pay any attention after the list left her hand.  That's an honest mistake.  It happens often enough that it's credible to me.

I would express my happiness and congratulations and send a small gift for the baby either right away or just after the baby was born.[/quote]

A text message after you liked the photo on FB isn’t exactly moving mountains to express regrets.  A phone call would have been better.  The reality is that people don’t like to confront difficult conversations with friends and no one will say “hey, now that x happened we are drifting apart or I’ve becone closer to Latla and could only invite 5 people”. That type of directness would seem cruel.  So while you don’t go around assuming things have changed, picking up on social hints means you take being left off of an important event that either something has changed or you thought this was a closer friend than how they see you.  The way you know the action wasn’t a hint but a mistake is someone is willing to call you and apologize for a start or they include you in the next thing or seem to want to make it up to you.  Like let me take you to lunch, I am so sorry this happened.[/quote]

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