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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is insisting and then there is action. Take action. Get estimates to move the washer dryer. Tell him what it is going to cost and when the work will be done. I don’t think this is really what you are after. It’s more a symptom of the real question. What you really want from him is to share your dreams of a home life together. If that is what you want you need say it explicitly. Say that you used to have a shared vision of the future and now you don’t know what his vision looks like.  Ask him what he sees as an ideal image of your life together and then listen. Reach out to any areas that share common ground. Point out that life is a balance, then find that balance together. But, at some point the balance has to include what you want, not all of what you want.[/quote]

You would make a good shrink. I want him to want it. Or at least care that I want it. I want him to feel like "We work hard and my wife is a good wife and mother and we can easily afford this and I want her to have it." I know that is not realistic. And that is what I need to let go of.[/quote]

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