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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]No one has a right to my time, attention, resources or love.[/b]

I call my parents once a week, send them memes and links on facebook or text cute kid photos a few times a week and visit a few times a year. But not because it is their right.  Because I love them and enjoy our time together and find value in our relationship.  While not perfect, they are loving, supportive and respectful of me and when we have issues, we address them out in the open with healthy communication.

My in-laws are a little annoying to me (since I am not adapted to their quirks), but they are kind, supportive and loving parents to DH, and wonderful grandparents.  They are also respectful and considerate guests and come visit a few times a year and I facetime them a few times a month with the kids and DH calls and texts them in-between.  But again, spending time together and communicating with them regularly is the natural result of our positive relationship with them.  It is not their “right.”[/quote]

This.  Children have no choice to be born, so there should be no expectations of parents that their adult children "owe" them anything.  The only expectation is that children are to support themselves when they become adults, that they are not to remain eternal children.

Beyond that, if parents want their adult children to have a relationship with them, they have to, as other PPs posted, respect them as they would other adults.  [/quote]

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