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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So why did you marry him? Why did you have kids with someone who doesn’t love you?[/quote]

Not the OP, but she probably didn't feel this way when she married him and set about to have kids with him.

Kids can change everything.[/quote]

Yes, I didn't feel this way when we got married.   [/quote]

I notice you didn’t answer why you had kids with him. [/quote]

As I said things were different I guess?  Who knows, but can’t turn back time. [/quote]

I think you are lying. I think deep down you simply wanted kids so badly that you settled for the first guy you could have them with, because it seemed like an easier choice than looking for a better match and starting a new relationship. Now, here you are, unfulfilled and realizing that children can’t and shouldn’t fill every emotional need.

Aside from divorcing, it’s too late for you to fix, but you can be a lesson to other women. [/quote]

It’s a little aggressive to say I’m lying.  I thought my husband and I were in love, wanted the same things, shared values etc.  so yes, we got married and had kids.  I dated a fair amount so it’s not as if I felt like I had to settle.  And my husband is a good guy. It’s just hard to come to terms with the fact that I don’t think he loves me. [/quote]

I’m not the PP, but in your subject line you say “I never really have felt like my husband loves me.” So that makes it sound like the problem was there from the beginning.

Did you grow up feeling unloved by a parent? Maybe it feels natural to be neglected? You deserve to feel loved.

You don’t have to engage with toxic posters.[/quote]

Thanks.  I had an alcoholic, very absent father.   My mom did her best. It was far from a happy home.  I did have a boyfriend in my early twenties for several years that I know loved me.  [/quote]

Maybe it’s when we are ready to marry and start a family that we choose a person who makes us feel like we did when growing up. I believe that we do know when we are loved, or not. Did your husband have a reason to marry you other than love? I would focus on things other than your marriage and be happy that way, raising your children, working, pursuing interests like your husband does with golf. [/quote]

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