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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So why did you marry him? Why did you have kids with someone who doesn’t love you?[/quote]

Not the OP, but she probably didn't feel this way when she married him and set about to have kids with him.

Kids can change everything.[/quote]

Yes, I didn't feel this way when we got married.   [/quote]

I notice you didn’t answer why you had kids with him. [/quote]

As I said things were different I guess?  Who knows, but can’t turn back time. [/quote]

I think you are lying. I think deep down you simply wanted kids so badly that you settled for the first guy you could have them with, because it seemed like an easier choice than looking for a better match and starting a new relationship. Now, here you are, unfulfilled and realizing that children can’t and shouldn’t fill every emotional need.

Aside from divorcing, it’s too late for you to fix, but you can be a lesson to other women. [/quote]

It’s a little aggressive to say I’m lying.  I thought my husband and I were in love, wanted the same things, shared values etc.  so yes, we got married and had kids.  I dated a fair amount so it’s not as if I felt like I had to settle.  And my husband is a good guy. It’s just hard to come to terms with the fact that I don’t think he loves me. [/quote]

Just because your DH doesn't love you how you think he should, doesn't mean he dosemt love you. It just means you have an ideal in your mind and he doesn't measure up. For people like you, the truth is, that almost no one could ever measure up. You can't accept people where they are or for who they are and you can accept their love. Your DH could do all the things today that you claim would show you how much he loves you, but tomorrow you would move the bar and claim he was once again. Failing.

What changes can you make in your life that will make you happy? Start there. It's easier to feel loved when you work om that .[/quote]

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