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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good looking, intelligent, book lover, attracted to me, good morals, laughed at my jokes.

But if you get right down to it, I could certainly find all those other qualities in many other women. I don't think I was (or am) very complicated or picky. [b]If she passed away or divorced me, she'd easily be replaced.[/b][/quote]

What a lucky lady.   :roll:

I know, I know, you're just "being honest," why should you get slammed.[/quote]

She is lucky. I'm a great guy. But I'm not irreplaceable either. Nobody is.[/quote]

Oh wow, not true. Romantic partners aside, I can think of PLENTY of people in my life who are, without a doubt, irreplaceable.

I find it weird when people make comments like this...it's hard to understand how someone could actually feel the way. The only thing I can conclude is either that they must be 'simpler' than most people (or I must be a heck of a lot more complex...). I had one boyfriend who, I came to realize, was like this. He was a great guy, seemed like quite a catch in every way, but as I tried to get to know him better I realize there was just...nothing else there. Nothing deeper below the surface. He was a good-looking dude and successful, athletic, etc, but as time went on and I tried to get to know him better I realized that...that was it. Nothing below the surface - he was just a simple person. The protagonist in a country song, is you will. Happy go lucky, nice, perfectly pleasant. I would have been bored out of my skull if we ended up together. I need someone who is deeper and 3-dimensional and...interesting to me. [/quote]

I find it weird that people - women who watch too many movies? - cannot distinguish between supremely valuable and irreplaceable. If your beloved husband or wife dies, or if your child dies, you can dress in black and live in mourning for the rest of your days. But that's a lot of days. You can also eventually try to be happy again in life , with your surviving family or with a new spouse. Life goes on. That's not being shallow. That's being not-stupid.[/quote]

I find it weird that you equate irrepleceable with eternally unhappy.

Just because I find a lover or friend irreplaceable doesn't mean I won't find other new lovers or friends and be happy with them.  I feel fortunate that I have some livers and friends in my life that are irreplaceable.  When I have lost them, I have mouned them but I have not been anle to replace them.  They were humans, and as such, were unique.  I will never find someone identical to replace them.  I will find other new people to love and be happy with, but they are not replacements for my lost lived one.  The new friend or lover offers me their own unique experience, because they are human too.

Perhaps if you objectify people for the role they play in your life and the things they do for you, then you can view them as replaceable.  
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