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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Present it as a problem: he may do more than the other men in his office but you are at your breaking point. Either he needs to step up or 1. You need to hire an au pair or nanny or 2. You I’ll stop working full time or at all. Maybe when he considers the free extra overtime you are currently crumbling under, he will get it. Sometimes the only thing that works is a talk that involves the budget.

What do you really want op if he doesn’t step up?[/quote]

I told him last night that I am completely overwhelmed and losing it. This morning we had two kids to take two different directions and it still didn't occur to him that he could offer to take one. He said he'd do it once I explained that I had to go two different directions and it would add 15+ minutes and I was running out of time to do things like get my own self ready for work (having already made breakfast for kids, rescheduled the cleaner, did work for my job, got kids backpacks ready...though he did wash his own dishes from the previous night).

I want a more equitable division of labor. Not just hands-on work but some of the thinking and planning that goes into running a life too. [/quote]

Hold it - “he did wash his own dishes from the previous night”? Is he your husband or child? Do you do anything together? You need to be a TEAM to take on a family. No wonder he doesn’t think he is underperforming, he isn’t on board. There’s you and the kids and then there’s him. It needs to be you and him and then there’s the kids. Big problems here, OP.[/quote]

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