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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, according to all of you who are judging OP, when is it okay to leave a marriage?[/quote]

As a child of divorced parents, the only way I would leave my marriage is if there was addiction, abuse (physical or emotional), or some other very serious issue like cheating, committing a crime, etc. [b]I don't expect things to be easy and I don't expect to have the same feelings toward DH that I did when we were newlyweds. But I think there is something to be said of the commitment, respect and love that comes from building a life together (note that that kind of love is often different than the love you feel early on).[/b] If I wasn't happy in my marriage, I see that as something I have control over.  Chances are, whatever issues are causing me to be unhappy would follow me into the next relationship unless I addressed them head-on.  [/quote]

Yes!!! It's scary how many adults seem not to have a good grasp on this. I guess it doesn't make good material for romantic comedies...which is really too bad. In any long term relationship, there are some times where love is a choice. You reap what(where) you sow. The type of all-consuming in love feeling you have with your AP is entirely inconsistent with a lifelong, day in and day out, kids and house and schedules and finances and stress and just plain boring daily life, relationship scenario.

Think of this: currently, you are putting your best foot forward / being your best self in interactions with your AP, and putting all of your effort into your (fun, exciting, fantasy) relationship with him. You like the fun and exciting and wonderful light he sees you in.  If you were to actually move in together and get married and just have to live out the mundane crap of life with each other, you would no longer have this dynamic long term. You just wouldn't. You wouldn't be just saving your best self for him, and neither would he[/quote]

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