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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Not the OP, but this is completely incorrect. I have a 13 yr. old daughter and she (and her friends) are very aware of who the "popular" kids are. That's what they call them, in fact. The "popular" girls (and boys) are the ones who skew promiscuous. The girls wear incredibly short shorts (showing butt cheek) and show too much skin all over. They are typically not very smart or nice and talk like Kim Kardashian. They post inappropriate pictures of themselves at parties. And no, the "popular" do not smile and talk with everyone - they stay very much to themselves and their own insular cliques. Popular doesn't mean what you think it means these days. And yes, this is what is reported by my daughter and her friends. It's not just me, or "existing only the minds of parents."

I do agree that teens find like-minded friends. My daughter is in what seems to be the "normal" group - not popular as defined above, but still plenty of friends (who don't act like the above descriptions). [/quote]

My DD started describing a "popular" crowd in MS, not before.  The popular kids are not overtly mean/bullies from what she tells me.  But they are insular - think, endless posting of Bar/Bat Mitzvah party photos to document their popularity.

I second a PP who was recommending the book "Tangled" - I feel like I have a better understanding of tweens/young teens and how "hard" keeping up popularity must be.  My younger DD (only 4th grade, no "popular" crowd yet) I can imagine being more susceptible because I see the stress in determining the invitation list to her birthday party . . . balancing who gets along, who she doesn't want to leave out, etc - because she has lots of friends in several different crowds (neighborhood friends, school friends, sports team friends, pool friends . . .)  My older DD (13) has fewer friends (her friend group is around 6-8 girls) and it's easy to plan a party or outing.  Always the same 6-8 (or even more frequently, just her & her bestie).

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